Visit any mom group online, and you’ll find a plethora of outrage on any number of topics. From vaccinations to babywearing to breastfeeding to cry-it-out, there is always something to be angry about in mom groups.
Right now, though, that outrage is pointed firmly at one thing: anatomically correct boy LOL Surprise Dolls.
Don’t get me wrong, I love me some mom groups on Facebook.
In an age where our physical village is disappearing and multi-generational living arrangements aren’t popular with most Americans, online mom groups are often the tribe moms need, especially when their children are young.
I’m still friends with the women in a due date club I joined when my second daughter was born seven years ago.
That’s almost a decade of watching each others’ families grow and encouraging one another along the way.
When I divorced my husband, they were who I could turn to during the process without bias or judgement or condemnation.
You can’t tell me those women aren’t real friends who are important in my life.
All that being said, though, the darker side of online mom groups is that they can also be filled with incredibly judgmental women ready to pounce.
It seems that right now those surprise dolls from hell and their baby penises are the target of that outrage.
But the larger question in this case is, for me, should boy dolls in general be anatomically correct?
Yes. Yes. Yes.
They absolutely should be anatomically correct.
The human body isn’t something we should be teaching children to be ashamed of. Boys have penises and testicles, and yeah, they look weird.
But you know what, girls have vulvas and clitorises, and yeah, they look weird, too.
If we want our children to love their bodies, explore them safely, and understand things like personal space, inappropriate touching, and consent, they need to know what a body looks like.
Even if that body is different than the one they occupy.
And now for your viewing pleasure…
If you’re looking for another healthy way to introduce what bodies look like to your children, plus help them learn what reproduction is in a developmentally appropriate way, I’d highly recommend this book.
It has simple pictures, provides details that are helpful for explaining the difference between female, male, child, and adult bodies, and it creates a light, safe way to discuss it with your kids.
So get talking about penises and vulvas and testicles and vaginas!
I promise it gets less awkward.